‘how I lost…’ takes a look at the systematic problem that allow for the victims of sexual assault to far outweigh the perpetrators. It is not just a ‘rape’ story, it is a film about breaking the molds set forth by society and yourself.
Through the honest story of Sara and Loco, the film explores consent and why no one seems to have ever met a rapist before. In Loco’s opinion, this is a love story - a modern day Romeo and Juliet. In actuality, Sara is his Rosalind- not his Juliet.
‘how I lost….’ as a love story
After freeing her from a hostile home life, he gives her roses and a place to live, Loco experiences the consummation of their bond where Sara experiences her rape.
If you strip the moment of all humanity including emotions, intentions, and reactions, the scene, as it was written, unfolds as a sex scene. Through the performances of the actors, we explore the limitations of of societies current view on the faces of rape (both the victim and the offender).
‘how I lost…’ as a piece of catharsis
The combination of beauty and the things we fear can merge to find the beauty in the brokenness. The film is meant to encourage women to speak up for who they are by breaking their own forced silence. Speaking their truth - without shame.
Our inclusivity comes from the diversity of perspective. We collaborate. Without hierarchy. Allowing each artist to share their voice without mediation. The way we work allows for different voices to emerge and creates an artistic environment where telling your truth is permissible.
‘how I lost…’ as a light
It is absolutely not possible for there to be this many victims and so very few culprits. The definition of rape protects no one… It is something we need to look at.
A new wave of feminists exposed sexual assault as a mass epidemic. I am inviting men into the #METOO movement by encouraging understanding so that we can come up with a solution.
The message of the story is inclusive because it talks about battles to be fought on all sides of the gender apeirogon. We all have responsibility to fight back together, instead of cultivating a society of blame and shame.